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The paper presents complex conditions which had influence on shape of epistolography in Poland causing that private, intimate content was marginalised frequently. On one hand discretion limiting showing affections characteristic for Old Polish had meaning, but on the other preserved epistolary patterns propagated by very popular handbooks in which everyday life and privacy constituted secondary issues. Widespread panegyrical convention, which underlined the distance between the sender and the addresee and formalized the language of comments, had substantial meaning. Presented considerations analyze two propositions concerning changes in the model of correspondence which were formed in the 18th century. Their authors – Aleksander Paweł Zatorski and Stanisław Szymański – encouraged people by new patterns to change epistolary habits teaching them how to introduce in an open and natural way their feelings and needs.